The Grammys premiered last night. Meghan Trainor won the award for Best New Artist and performed on stage for a tribute to Lionel Richie along with John Legend, Luke Bryan, Tyrese Gibson and, shockingly, Demi Lovato.
The reason why I say Demi and Meghan performing together is shocking is due to Trainor’s ignorant comments she made in 2014 about anorexia and her, supposedly, body-positive song titled All About That Bass.
Demi has been a strong proponent for mental health suffering herself from bipolar disorder, bulimia, drug addiction and depression.
The comments made by Meghan Trainor were met with backlash from Demi on Twitter.
“Having an eating disorder doesn’t show ‘strength.’ Strength is when are able to overcome your demons after being sick and tired for so long. There’s a wide misconception that anorexia and/or bulimia is a choice and you often hear people say things like ‘Why doesn’t she just start eating?’ Or even ‘just stop throwing up.’ It’s the ignorance and lack of education on mental illnesses that continues to [put] mental health care on the back burner to congress even though this is an epidemic that is sweeping our nation, and causing more and more tragedy every day. Starving is not a ‘diet’ and throwing up isn’t something that only extremely thin men or women do. Eating disorders do not discriminate. Neither does any other mental illness. These are deadly diseases that are taking lives daily. So please, let’s be cautious of the words we use when discussing ED’s and other mental illnesses.”
I strongly agree with all Demi had to say to Meghan about her inconsiderate comments. First of all, you cannot just one day decide to have anorexia. I never woke up one day and was like “I’m going to be anorexic now.” No, that’s not how it works. Trainor saying these things and being heard by millions of people, keeps that misconception alive. Second, having an eating disorder is not equivalent to strength. Yes, people who have eating disorders are strong, but the eating disorder itself does not make them strong. Eating disorders are illnesses that like Demi said, “do not discriminate.” Anyone can suffer from them and they are not a sign of strength or weakness for that matter.
When I heard about this, it made me furious. I loved Meghan’s voice and her body-positive message, but the further I read into the lyrics of her popular song, I learned that it wasn’t as body-positive as I thought.
In a part of the song she sings, “Yeah, my mama she told me ‘don’t worry about your size’ (Shoo wop wop, sha-ooh wop wop) She says, ‘Boys like a little more booty to hold at night.'” The reason why I dislike these lyrics is due to their focus on men for approval of your body. You shouldn’t look a certain way for a man. You need to love yourself the way you are. The next part that I read into is more blatantly seen. Trainor adds in “Go ‘head and tell them skinny bitches that…” and she also calls girls who are thin “barbie dolls.” This can be seen as skinny shaming. You don’t know what someone who is thin is dealing with. At my smallest, I had an eating disorder. Also, not every person with a small figure has an eating disorder or received plastic surgery, they are just naturally that way and no matter what they do, they cannot change it. Everyone was built differently and we are all uniquely beautiful. We shouldn’t shame anyone for their size including those who are thinner.
I know I am a little late to all of this, but seeing Trainor on stage last night at the Grammys, especially along with Demi, I was reminded of all of the controversy surrounding her. Also, this is something I’ve been wanting to share my opinion about since I read about it.
I did enjoy the Grammys last night. ADELE, TAYLOR SWIFT, KENDRICK LAMAR, DEMI LOVATO, LADY GAGA… amazzzziiiinnngggg.
What is your opinion on Meghan Trainor?
Did you watch the Grammys last night? What did you think?